Fellas,
I completely understand that we men have some difficulty wrapping our heads around marital/relationship therapy. But something has occurred in your partnership that's resulted in your exploring the possibility of counseling like:
* your partner said to find "us" a therapist or else
*you realize there are issues in your relationship that need tending to
*you're scared your partner is going to leave you
*you're considering leaving your partner
*your considering having an affair and your head and guts are in an uproar
*your in an affair and just got found out
*fill in the blank
Whatever problems you're encountering, they didn't begin yesterday. My guess is that the disconnection going on between you and your partner started sometime ago and what you are now experiencing sucks.
If you've never done really good relationship counseling, then working with me will probably be a foreign experience (so was learning to ride a bike, and you figured that out). After the initial reaction subsides and you and your mate get into the heart of the matter, therapy is not so bad after all. In fact it might improve dramatically or in the extreme just possibly could save your relationship.
Give it a shot
Bobby